When we seek outside validation it’s a big disconnect from our inner truth and a major throat chakra block.  The act of looking outside ourselves for to get our needs met, to help make decisions and boost our self-esteem is an indicator of low self-worth connected to your Solar Plexus.  There is a big connection with Solar plexus and Throat Chakra’s, if our Solar plexus is balanced it can support our throat opening up, if it’s not it contributes to throat chakra withholding.

I’m not talking about getting an opinion because that can be nice but if you’re getting opinions because you don’t have your own then that is a problem.  I’ve asked girlfriends if this dress is ok every once in awhile but we all know when we look good and when we don’t and if you’re constantly looking for those validations that you look smoking hot then you’ve got some work to do my friend.

Looking for the patterns in behavior, are you constantly looking for feedback on your life?  If you don’t get a lot of likes on your Facebook post and it gives you a belly flip, are you constantly checking your stats on Instagram and does it ruin your day if you don’t get the results/validation you need?  Social media sets us up for a lot of outside validation triggers, we all can be subject to them and how much if affects you will be something to examine and heal.

If your external validation is stronger than your inner validation, what do you do?

Cultivate a strong inner self!

1st step to overcoming a validation imbalance, awareness!

Catch yourself in the behavior and stop what you’re doing, ask yourself some questions about your motivation. “Is this true” is a great place to start.  What do you hope to get from that external validation?  What do I really need right now?  

Second step, How can you give yourself what you are seeking?

Support yourself and lean into one of your stronger more balanced chakra’s for support, like Solar plexus- confidence and authenticity are huge, what makes you unique and special!  Sacral- courage, trust and how do you really want to feel?  Heart- Compassion for where you’re at and what you’re going through, gratitude list all about you baby!

It doesn’t happen overnight but you will see changes in how you operate when you start working with this energy!

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